You know the word. Then one we have all used, at one time or another. It taunts us, sometimes daily. Casting doubt and fear into our daily lives as we try to do our best to birth and raise our children as best we can.
Failure follows us wherever we go. From pregnancy through the high school graduation of our child, we continually feel the judgment of others when it comes to literally EVERY decision we make as parents.
Did you end up with an epidural? Someone made you feel like crap about it.
Did you formula feed your baby? Someone shamed you for it.
Did you go back to work full time? Someone made snide remarks about it.
Did you forget your toddler's shoes (and maybe even their shirt) when you made a quick 15 minute Walmart run? Guarantee you that wasn't met with grace.
Point is, we all do our best. I tell my clients during our childbirth education classes that every single pregnant parent is a uniquely shaped and uniquely made human being--because our uniqueness is part of our humanity! And every baby is equally unique. As such, in childbirth no baby and mother/birthing parent pair can be put into a box. We can't predict their outcome. We arm ourselves with as much education and as many tools as possible and then we take it one minute at a time.
The way I look at parenting is exactly the same. I don't have the magic cure for your baby's sleepless nights or a quick fix for their feeding struggles, but I do know that my education and experience coupled with a healthy perspective of the beautiful uniqueness of each child allows me to help you achieve your parenting goals without feeling like that "F" word.
Because guess what: if you do your best you will never fail. Your child(ren) will know love and will grow in their own unique way as you guide them as best as you know how.
Keep going, friends. You are amazing. I love to see you do incredible things.
Erin love to write about topics that families are interested in, to help spread awareness throughout the community, and to help her clients and future clients better understand her services. She loves chatting with people about her blogs, so feel free to contact her!